This time a year ago I was getting ready to say “I do” to a gal I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. One of the biggest surprises has been how quick time has flown.
After some reflection, I have come to realise that this marriage journey isn’t all fun and games. I mean I knew it wasn’t going to be a walk in the park, after all, when you put two humans together under the same roof who have promised to push each other (this was part of our vows), well your asking for trouble.
So about this slow and painful death I mentioned, its true! I think if you plan to be intentional with any marriage or relationship there is bound to be some kind of death.
When it comes to working through conflict together, there is that part of me that wants to win, make a point and be right, but there has been a slow and painful death.
When it comes to managing money, there is that part of me that wants to spend like there is one of us. but there has been a slow and painful death.
And when it comes to decision making, time management and sacrificing my time, well there is that part of me that thinks he is still single. but there has been a slow and painful death.
All this talk of death may sound a bit depressing to some, I get it, and I would rather there be no pain at all when it comes to relationships, but if the hard stuff was absent and the process of building together was easy, would we learn the same valuable lessons?
For those of you reading who have been married for a number of years, I stand and salute you! I can only imagine the things you have had to put to death to make sure you continue the journey with your other half.
I wouldn’t have it any other way, and look forward to seeing the life that comes from choices that seem hard now.
What is the biggest thing you have learnt from your marriage?